Wednesday, 13 April 2016

Loud, Proud and In Charge

Juggling full schedules is a challenge for all parents.  Over the last year, I've been trying to find a way to incorporate more exercise into the regular routine.  I've begun using the treadmill after the boys get home from school, while they're occupied with their screentime and getting a good bout of play in.  But this left me with a minor dilemma, how to handle having a quick shower once I was done?  (Trust me, going without, not an option for me.)

I didn't like leaving the boys unattended.  Alex can disarm the alarm system and unlock the outer doors (and still shows a tendency to bolt when no one is watching).  I didn't like locking Alex in his room.

After some consideration, I decided to put Nathan "in charge".  It's a low level of responsibility, mainly "if anything happens, come and get Mommy".  This was a hard decision for me, as Dave and I have always said that we don't want Nathan to feel responsible for Alex.  He needs to be free to live his own life and explore his own choices.

But I don't think we're crushing his independence too much by having him do ten minutes of supervision a couple of times a week.  (At least, I'm hoping that we're not.)  Nathan loves it.  He enjoys being identified as responsible and being given authority.

It still seems a little odd to me to have the younger brother "in charge" over the older one, but that's just reality.  Meanwhile, I'm getting the exercise I need to stay healthy and the kids are accepting it.  So, for now, I'm calling it a win.

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