There are days when I feel like I've been dealing with potty training forever. I'm intensely jealous of the books and tapes which promise to have your kid potty trained within the week. (Although, to maintain my sanity, I tell myself that it would be impossible to have a child transition from diapers to reliably accident-free in less than 7 days.)
It's been two years of struggle with Nathan and I don't even want to do the calculations for Alex. We thought we had Nathan settled back in December, but come March, he had a major regression. By May, he hadn't been successful in over a month.
So we went back to the basics. No screen time until he did a BM in the toilet. After some initial challenges, he got back into shape fairly quickly. But that left me with a dilemma. How do I transition him to the next level of going independently?
I've decided to take a multi-tiered approach. We're keeping the toilet-screen time connection but we've added new incentives. If he goes an entire week with no accidents, he gets an extra dollar for his allowance. If he does 5 weeks with no accidents, he gets a special surprise toy. We've got a "calendar" where he can put a sticker each day to keep track.
I'm hoping that if we can keep success going long enough, then he'll just recognize what his body is telling him and act on it.
Will it work? I have no idea. And given my track record, I'm probably not a safe bet. But it's the best idea I have so far and as such, that's what I'll go with.