We’ve decided to throw Nathan’s birthday party at Cosmic
Adventures this year. I think the kids
will have a fantastic time and it means I don’t have to worry about set up or
clean up. But there has been a difficult
decision to make.
Does Alex get to come or not?
On the having-him-come side of the argument, I don’t like
the idea of excluding him from family events.
He’s a part of our family and I already feel that sometimes we feel too
much like a 3 + 1 family. He generally
likes Cosmic.
On the other hand, he’s very difficult to control at
Cosmic. There are too many places it’s
difficult to follow him and there are too many exits to keep track of him while
he’s on the playstructure. If he comes,
the lion’s share of our attention will have to be focused on him and what he’s
doing. He won’t be compliant with the
schedule and won’t enjoy the cake or structured activities. Given his aggression, I would have to worry
about the safety of the other kids. Not
just our guests but anyone else at Cosmic.
It makes me sad but in the end, it’s Nathan’s birthday. He should have his parents’ full attention
and be able to enjoy his party without having to worry about what his brother
is doing. So we’ll arrange for Alex to
do something fun with either a grandparent or a sitter and let Nathan be the
star at his party.
It’s a difficult decision but sometimes you have to focus on
how things are rather than how you would like them to be in a more ideal
world. If you want things to go
smoothly, then you have to deal with reality.
No matter how much you don’t like it.
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